How to get Mom to cooperate?

Have they tried anti-anxiety meds?

Well there's a whole new issue in itself. Mom refuses to take anything, not even tylenol. We finally got her to take vitamins, but they have to be the exact kind she has taken for years, no substitutions lol. She is not really anxious, just stubborn as a mule. She hid her condition for years by keeping things in a strict routine and the same all the time so she fights any change at all because she still refuses to admit she has alzheimer's.

You may need to apply for guardianship. Otherwise, she is probably within her right to refuse meds and treatment.

Yes, this is going to shorten her life, but perhaps that's what she wants. Look into hospice care.

See if she'll sit in a recliner. My aunt had the same issue. But once we got her the comfy recliner, no more swollen feet.. She loves it!

Nursing homes are terribly boring - if she is doing puzzles is it possible to move her to a memory care assisted living facility where there are activities to engage her?

My grandma lives in her recliners. We have one she sleeps in and another she sits with us in the main room of her house in. She too has swelling feet but we are lucky and most days she allows me to put the compression socks on her for a few hours. Eventually she will say she's hot and her feet are too tight so I remove them. But recliners are amazing. They keep her feet up comfortably and I never have to see her feet that swollen. Plus they are power lift chairs so if she wanted (which she still sometimes will do) she can put herself down and get up by herself.