My fiancé has been watching after her dad for 12 yrs. ever since her mother passed away. We have been together for almost 8 yrs. She has always made me bite my tongue when he decides to verbally bash her, even though out of six kids she is the only one that will put up with him. he has a major gambling problem (I was glad we moved to a no gambling state) he has been showing decline in memory for yrs. but he will never agree to see anyone. He now never bathes and if I bring it up he gets offended and ignores us. He stinks to high heaven and definitely has Alzheimer's ( I took care of my grandmother who had it and I know the signs) my biggest fear is he will take off or get sick and when he is being looked at they are gonna blame my fiancé for his shabby smell and appearance. She gave 12 yrs too her mother when she had cancer and then got saddled with a father who blames all his unhappiness on her. I am trying to be supportive of this whole situation but enough is enough.... he is ungrateful and stinks.....How in the world do you get someone who will not even get a flu shot to a psych eval? Any helpful feedback will be greatly appreciated.