My friend was in End Stage Renal. He was like a big brother to me but when he became sick, he pushed wife and myself away. He would only contact me in case of an emergency. When we were able to, we would go out to dinner every other month.
Then his health declined, so we offered help (ASL, he rejected). He threw information into the trash right in front of us. Diaslysis center close to home? Refused. Meal on wheels? Refused. PillPack to oraganize meds? Refused. Help get finances in order? Refused.
He stated that I may be trying to take their money. He would take his wife to pay bills and go to back, and he made me turn my back while she wrote out checks. He would only call when we had to take him to hosptial. After a while, he didn't even do that and was mad when we found out.
4 months ago his dr advised him to get his afairs in order and he contacted me to be power of attorney. He did not tell me about what the dr said and nothing happened. Last week he crashed at home and then at the hospital. The outlook is grim. They have no children and his wife cannot care for herself. She can make her own choices. They had home healthcare that she depended on. Now calling for help in power of attorney for her. She has no one else. She is non compliant in any kind of advice and is in total denial on her husband's health. Refuses DNR bracelit, hospice etc.
What would you do?