She just feels like sleeping but after long mornings she gradually gets better. 90 years old. waiting for doctor to call. her bp and oxygen is "normal".
My 90 year old mom goes to bed between 8:30 and 9:00 almost every night and I usually wake her by 9:30. On occasion she gets herself up. She always takes an afternoon nap as well. I find that by keeping her on somewhat of a routine she functions better. I too think as long as you are not seeing any health problems with your mom let her sleep:)
Some nights I sleep more than others. My mother is the same way. My mother in law, who is 91, often doesn't get up until close to noon. She likes to stay up late watching tv. Whatever makes them happy. They don't have a schedule they have to be on, and they've earned the right to sleep as much as they want to.
It bothers my mom that sleeps so much - she thinks she shouldn't need so much sleep. She has sleep apnea, takes blood pressure medication, pain medication, statins, diuretics, anti-seizure medications, and then went to the doctor to get medication to keep her awake and wondered why she got dizzy. Don't worry about it. Sleep is ok.
This is what works for me. When I see Mom in her bedroom all day either napping or watching TV, I go in there with my little chihuahua (they both LOVE each other) and keep her company, or get her tea, and maybe watch a few game shows with her. I also make her feel needed. "Will you come sit outside with me? I'm feeling a bit anxious and don't want to be alone." Mothers will always want to help if they feel needed. Let her know she is still needed. It makes a world of a difference.
sorry, stupid computer... anyway I got all wigged out, but they said she does that sometimes. She'll have a whole week that she'll sleep till 11am or so but the next week she'll be back to 'normal'. So I say let her sleep in if she wants, and see what happens. Could be the new 'normal' for her, could be just a phase.
She is tired.She is 90 years old.Let her sleep.Just keep turning her so bed sores don't set in.If she eventually gets up,then fine if not just keep changing her position.You don't want bed sores to set in.Good luck.
At the assisted living/memory care where my mother-in-law lives, they let those poor old people sleep if they want to. My m-i-l is 90 this year, so I told them if she's not wanting to get up and be ready when I come and to get her, let her alone. I got all worried when she did that sleeping in thing for 3 or 4 days in a row, because that is NOT
My 94-year-old Mom sleeps much of the time and has some bedsores because she does not turn herself for several hours. Since I am no longer with her full time, and she now lives out of state, I really do not know how long she lies on one side. I know that anyone who may be bedridden should be turned about every two or three hours daily.
FORCE..................Why use FORCE on a 90 year old woman....??? LORD let the woman languish...talk to her doctor...if she is alive and happy and NOT FALLING or TRIPPING over things in the house...she is SAFE and sound....!! If she was up tripping and breaking her bones you would be even more upset...LET HER REST...she has sure earned it..GOD BLESS YOU BOTH...
I agree with the comments. Let her sleep, especially during winter when cold weather takes its toll even on younger and healthier people and most of us could benefit from more rest.
This occurs with us as well. On days when we have something planned that Dad really likes, he's up early, even waking me up because he's anxious and excited. On days when nothing is planned, he sleeps in.
I don't think a 9 hour rest for someone of your mother's age is unusual. But you might want to try something just as a test...plan something she really loves to do, but not early in the morning... maybe mid-morning or late morning and see if she gets up earlier.
Also make sure she's eating a good healthy diet with enough protein to give her energy. Diets without proper nutrition can make people tired and weak (just really stating the obvious here).
If not, i agree that this is a good time for you to devote to yourself.
Let her sleep. She's earned her rest. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Besides, her sleeping gives YOU time to unwind and have time out for yourself. Enjoy it and let mom enjoy sleeping. :)
My grandmother started doing that (sleeping long hours). She would sometimes stay in bed all day. Then days she would get up and only take a nap. Just check on her from time to time and make sure she is okay and if she needs anything. If this is not normal for her, then maybe her thyroid could be out of whack. Ask the doctor. Good luck.
If this is normal for her, or just a gradual increase in her sleeping over time, then let her be. You've checked there's nothing wrong, and it's not unusual for very elderly people not to be full of get up and go in the mornings (neither am I and I'm only 50!).
But even if it is a sudden and marked change, which might warrant more concern, you've already done the right thing in calling for advice. Hope all turns out to be well, please update.
Good heavens, she is 90, let her sleep if she wants, as long as she eventually gets out of bed. She's had a very long life, she tired.
Both my parents are in their 90's, they don't sleep late, in fact they are early birds, Mom has breakfast going by 6 a.m. every single day [they still live on their own]... but they do take a lot of long naps during the day as both take blood pressure pills which can zap the energy out of anyone.
It bothers my mom that sleeps so much - she thinks she shouldn't need so much sleep. She has sleep apnea, takes blood pressure medication, pain medication, statins, diuretics, anti-seizure medications, and then went to the doctor to get medication to keep her awake and wondered why she got dizzy. Don't worry about it. Sleep is ok.
This occurs with us as well. On days when we have something planned that Dad really likes, he's up early, even waking me up because he's anxious and excited. On days when nothing is planned, he sleeps in.
I don't think a 9 hour rest for someone of your mother's age is unusual. But you might want to try something just as a test...plan something she really loves to do, but not early in the morning... maybe mid-morning or late morning and see if she gets up earlier.
Also make sure she's eating a good healthy diet with enough protein to give her energy. Diets without proper nutrition can make people tired and weak (just really stating the obvious here).
If not, i agree that this is a good time for you to devote to yourself.
But even if it is a sudden and marked change, which might warrant more concern, you've already done the right thing in calling for advice. Hope all turns out to be well, please update.
Both my parents are in their 90's, they don't sleep late, in fact they are early birds, Mom has breakfast going by 6 a.m. every single day [they still live on their own]... but they do take a lot of long naps during the day as both take blood pressure pills which can zap the energy out of anyone.