I'm burnt out trying to figure out how to understand my mom who suffers from dementia. It's been 7 long years. My siblings won't help. In fact they feel better about themselves by saying I gave her dementia. There are so many changes, twists, and turns for this disease. I have to try and figure out what it is that she wants by her gestures, in other words I have to lend her my mind. She has had the sun downing stage for about 8 yrs now, and I finally got approved a month ago a split shift after being denied for 6 yrs. She doesn't cooperate with strangers, it's still all on me at night. She is now keeping water in her mouth at night for hours, can it be her being spiteful? Or can this mean she is forgetting how to swallow at night, when the sun downing kicks in?