I live 10 hours from my father. I need to make arrangments to get time off work and travel to be there for his Dr Appts. He never remembers when his appts are and VA will not tell me even though I have been put on his list of people they can talk to 3 different times. How do I find out when appts are? What they are for, or just have a dr talk to me since he comes home and never knows that the dr said since he does not hear well?