12 yrs ft caregiver 2 my parents & also ft private 1 also. I feel. I'm alone @this, no help from any family. Am a diabetic now 4 a year now, that's not helping, can't get number down & hardly eat sugar. I'm extremely tired, worn out, can't get enough sleep. I feel no one understands,I haven't been to church in months. I'm all alone on this so long journey. All the support group conflict with my work isn't there one that can help that understands me???
You can make a plan to change things ASAP. Your area agency on aging - every county/state has one - can set you up with social services intake.
Your parents do need to be in full time care and the money will work itself out between Medicare, Medicaid, & the bank. It not YOUR money involved.
Of course you are tired. You don't have the luxury of self-neglect with diabetes. Taking care of your body with good diet, sleep, low stress, and exercise is MANDATORY unless you want to beat your parents to the funeral home.
A social worker can do a care assessment to determine your parents' need level and help you figure out what facilities can take them, hopefully together. Plan for their need level to increase and a place that can handle it.
One thing at a time.
Also, you really need to make some time for yourself. If your health breaks down, you can't care for anyone. Please talk to your local resources, whether senior advocates, pastor, senior center, social worker, etc. There may be some relief or resources you aren't aware of. And, take at least 3 hours a week, just to do something kind for yourself. Find a relaxed no hobby or take a walk, or paint, something. Your work and home work are too similar, so it feels like you are working 24/7/365.