I am in charge of my brothers. He wants to by mutual funds and maybe single stocks. I'm the one that gets in trouble if I don't handle the money correctly. Not him. There is someone at the bank I was told I could talk to about the trust. But don't know if they would be best person to talk to.
Talk to the lawyer; it may be that someone else needs to be the trustee since you have your hands full with your husband. It feels to me as though your brother is just going to bully you to death.
And explaining anything to my brother doesn't mean anything to him. He wants to do what he wants. He has personality disorder. Very self centered. It is in mom's estate account until I can close estate. Then the money will go in the trust in bank account. Small amount of money already in account, not much.
Can you talk to the lawyer who drew up the papers? Perhaps that person could explain it to you and to your brother at the same time.
What sort of account is the money in right now?