but I know that is only if the parent can't afford to pay them. Not sure how they decide if the parent can afford it, but I think my mother could. She has dementia and I have been living with her and taking care of her for a few years. She has gotten a bit worse and I have had to cut back my hours. At first, I wasn't expecting to get paid because I don't pay rent. Her house is paid off. We kind of had an unwritten agreement - I stay and take care of things and I don't pay any rent. However, now that I've had to cut my hours back, I'm finding it harder to pay my other bills. I can no longer even save any money. I'm not married so all I have is myself to save for my own retirement. BTW,I'm 50 and haven't even started yet.
Anyway, if she can afford to pay me how do I get this set up? It's kind of awkward because she doesn't really realize just how bad she has become. She just thinks I'm there to both help her a little and so I can not pay rent. She doesn't remember of course that, for example, earlier today she left the stove on with a towel very close to the flames. Nor does she remember leaving the water running. She probably would think it was odd that I wanted to be also be paid a little bit more than just free rent. Believe me, I'm grateful for the free rent, but it doesn't really make up for the fact that I have had to drop back on hours. Any advice would be appreciated.