My dad is almost 90 years old. He has memory issues but is very high functioning. He can eat, change his clothes, take showers (with a reminder). However I don't feel it would be safe for him to live in his house and on his own. He would not eat properly, he is not allowed to drive any longer and for sure he would forget to take his meds. He gets the cell phone and the remote control confused. He lived with my husband and me for 6 months. It was challenging but we managed. He would wake up every day asking what we were doing for the day. It was like having a child that needed to be entertained. Prior to my dads decline I retired because life is too short. My husband has his own health issues but we had made a decision for me to retire early so we could travel before we are not able to. But then my dad's condition started to worsen. It has been a slow progression over the last 5 years and he was able to manage on his own but not any longer. I have put him in a Memory Care facility. He has been there for almost about 2 1/2 months. To get him there we led him to believe that he works there and helps others. He liked it in the beginning as he was helping others who need assistance. Now every time I talk to him, he wants to go back to "that place". He calls it his business but it is actually his house that he is remembering. There is no way he can live by himself and 24 hour home care would cost more than having him in memory care. Plus I do like the social aspect and the activities of Memory care. I feel that he may feel lonely at his house. His house is 30 miles away from mine. I am feeling guilty because I know he could live with me. I just don't want that. I am trying to remember his wishes while he had full memory. He did not want to be a burden to his children but we all say that. Now I am feeling so guilty. I visit him once a week and take him to my house for the day. I also talk to him on the phone twice a week. Am I not doing enough?