Recently my husband, son & I moved to another state, for what I thought would just be to help his mom settle his grandparents in an assisted living facility. Thwn we would be taking over their house. When we arrive his mom is not there & is in fact living with his sister in the neighboring state. His grandparents are in their 90's & should not be living on their own. Grandma has dementia, is incontinent, and is too frail to do anything much on her own. Grandpa has heart issues, diabetes, is also incontinent(but won't admit it & rarely agrees to wear depends) & is having memory issues I think will lead to dementia. I have been taking care if both of them for everything. When I ask about when we will be getting them settled in a home; my husband just says he talked about it with his mom, end if subject...His mom came to visit for Thanksgiving & as she is nearly blind, deaf & disabled with rheumatoid arthritis; I took care of her too! I hate to sound ungrateful, as we will be eventually inheriting the house; but, I was never asked to be the sole caregiver, maid, etc. I feel like I was duped & I think my husband feels the same way, but he's being the good son/grandson. I love his grandparents, but I feel like an unwilling servant.