My mother has lived with my wife and I for 35 years. When we have a day off and things planned she with no notice want's us to take her some place, usually a doctor visit or shopping. The other day I was off and had things I needed to do and was looking forward to some time alone.With no notice she wanted me to take her for blood work and I got irritated now I feel guilty for telling her no. I am 60 years old and am getting older myself, I sometimes have had enough. Any advice.