My mother in law is 95 and diagnosed with dementia. She will eat for the caregiver, but if we try to feed her she holds the food in her mouth and refuses to swallow for long periods of time. She also refuses to take pills - we've tried adding them to applesauce or yogurt, crushing them into foods . . . but she'll take them for the caregiver. The problem is the caregiver is only there 6 days a week from 11-7, so we need to feed her breakfast, and the days she is off we need to get her to eat. My husband is convinced she wants us to help her die, but since she eats for the caregiver, I think he's wrong. Anyone have a suggestion?