My father is an Olympic-grade worrier & always has been. Probably the most anxious man ever. Both my parents (ages 88 & 92) are in assisted living, primarily due to mom's deterioration. I have made arrangements for her to be bathed, dressed in am & pm, and have meds administered. However, he is anxious beyond all belief about her care. He repeats over & over again that "I'm 92 years old - I'm not a caregiver!!!!" I encourage him to get away & participate in some of the resident activities, but he acts like he's too good for that. Also says "I can't leave her alone!" I have suggested bringing her to the lobby in her wheelchair & let her sit there while he does other things. There always are staff around if she needed help. But no-o-o-o! That won't work! Also, for instance, if the team that's bathing her does not get there within 5 minutes of the scheduled time, he calls to find out where they are. After a day or so of this he calls me & repeats the same complaints over & over & over. I do believe the AL is a good one & is highly rated & they have been very good to my folks. But mom's decline (physically & mentally) has been surprising. My dad had "planned" a completely different scenario for his old age, but obviously that hasn't happened. He has been put on an antidepressant & a couple of years ago went thru some counseling, but he dropped that because "what good is it"? I'm out of solutions. Any thoughts?