He has early stage dementia, and is making impulse decisions. He wants to change his pop Dr cause he blames her. He refuses to listen to my husband or other son. What can we do. We are worried about him. He is 92.
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The dr. Called this evening and we talked about this, i know that he thinks his. Freedom and independence is being taken away. But his safety and the public's safety is the main concern. The dr. Suggested a place for me to go to a support for caregivers with a loved one with dementia. I'll keep you informed. Thanks again
Does your FIL live in a city, small town or what? Most towns and cities have some form of transportation for seniors.
Oh dear. Either way, he is clearly hopping mad. I think there are only two things you can do:
1. Research alternative transport options for him, so that when he needs to get somewhere you have the solution all ready for him.
2. Avoid the subject as far as possible and give him time to stop spitting feathers about it. Just say solemnly "I realise this is a blow" if he brings it up; but don't keep on trying to persuade him of the rightness of the thing. Not least because there's no need: he's failed his test, he doesn't have a licence to drive, end of driving story. But it's only to be expected that he's not happy about it.
As for changing doctors - just listen noncommittally, and then if it looks as if he might actually make a move to do something about it rather than just talk about it, you can point out that he can try as many doctors as he likes but not one of them is going to risk getting sued by saying anything different from his current lady doctor. So: "better the devil you know, eh?"
Check with local cab companies and see if they offer something for seniors, where the elder will have the same cab driver each time. That is if the elder would accept riding with the stranger [my parents wouldn't].