My father is 87 and I visit every day, bring in his mail, etc. He's positive and motivated to do his physical therapy for recovery of a broken hip. But he doesn't want me to lift a finger or to get anyone else to help. He needs someone to clean the floors. I'm allowed to do a 5- minute vacuum once in a while, but he absolutely hated it when I wanted to "just wipe up a little something here because my shoe stuck to the floor yesterday..." That's what I said to get him to allow me to clean the kitchen floor after 3 months. He insisted that I not do that. It's a tiny little apartment kitchen floor, you just need a washcloth. God forbid I should even mention the bathroom floor. he insists he'll do everything himself. He doesn't want anyone in the place because of past theft by a caregiver for our mom now deceased. So, how bad does this get before he allows someone in there!!!