I cant be in the same room sometimes help. Ive been kind and ask him to take a bath but he wont even tried to bried him but didnt work dont know what to do help
Your profile says that his primary problem is diabetes. Does he have cognitive decline too? I ask, because bathing became an issue for my cousin when her dementia set in. I couldn't figure it out, because I didn't realize what was happening with her brain. But, later, as it progressed, I could see how the lack of hygiene, changing into clean clothes, dental care, etc. all were neglected by her.
It's almost impossible to get them to bathe when that is the cause. It's not just plain old stubbornness. You'll have to determine what is going on with your family member.
The only thing that really worked for us is that sometimes, I would just start talking about us going to do something together, go for a drive, I'd just lather the wash cloth and place it in her hand and say after you are nice and clean we can then go for a nice drive . It might not be feasible to handle your loved one that way, though.
The only other thing that worked was bath aids. Professionals who work with people who often resist baths, have a lot of tricks up their sleeves and they have an attitude that works with most seniors. After going to Memory Care, my cousin has no issue with bathing. I have noticed that they play music in the shower room and sing during the bath times. I think it relaxes the residents.
I'd hire someone to come in twice a week and give him a shower. Lots of times when a stranger who is experienced with obstinate old people, they can do the trick. The care facility where my mother-in-law was insisted on giving her a shower twice a week. Especially since she wore a diaper and things were NOT good down there much of the time. She HATED it as the Alzheimer's progressed, so they accommodated her hatred of the shower, and their need to keep her clean by adjusting their techniques. That's why hiring an experienced person is crucial.
This is a very common problem heard here on AgingCare. You will probably get lots of suggestions, but you may also want to search the site ... click on the three lines to the left of the logo to find the search function and type in "won't bath or shower". Hope you find something helpful!
It's almost impossible to get them to bathe when that is the cause. It's not just plain old stubbornness. You'll have to determine what is going on with your family member.
The only thing that really worked for us is that sometimes, I would just start talking about us going to do something together, go for a drive, I'd just lather the wash cloth and place it in her hand and say after you are nice and clean we can then go for a nice drive . It might not be feasible to handle your loved one that way, though.
The only other thing that worked was bath aids. Professionals who work with people who often resist baths, have a lot of tricks up their sleeves and they have an attitude that works with most seniors. After going to Memory Care, my cousin has no issue with bathing. I have noticed that they play music in the shower room and sing during the bath times. I think it relaxes the residents.