How do you deal with other family members rejecting your giving lifetime support to your parents as if it is of no value? and excluding you from family life? Its complicated but basically I am the eldest of 4. I have always supported my parents in a loving and financial way from the moment I started work. My two younger siblings just took whatever they could month after month not realising that they were leaving my parents with nothing for themselves for the month. When my mother became more frail and her health started to fail I was made redundant and in a very short space of time a full time care giver until she died. I was present when she died. Since than I have learnt that my younger brother told his own version of events from that time that some how have him as the injured party and he is believed over me. As a consequence I am excluded from family life, this has been going on for almost three years. My father is now frail and requires daily support which my brother now reluctantly provides as the last sibling that remained at home and not working. He does this with the help of a carer and me giving up my Saturdays to spend with dad and catch up on everything that needs to be done. I am effectively written out of the family narative unless I am expected to do something and I am hurt and disillusioned with family. For me it mean people that will let you down and its hard to move on from the daily sadness that this brings. I used to hope this might change but I think its highly unlikely now and sadly dads death is the only way I will be free of these toxic relationships. Does anyone else have experiences like this? How did/do you deal with them?