Extremely judgmental neighbor won't even acknowledge my presence because of my Dad that has dementia?

Am an only child of a father that is 99years old who has dementia and alz for the past 9 years. Through years of therapy, because of panic attacks anxiety, and depression, I have realized that my father was emotionally abusive and negligent even when I was an extreme nth young child.

Mom passed 10 years ago and my father came to live with me. I have cared for him in my home, developed dementia and alz. I am a single woman who cared for him at home and working half time. Wonderful help from the Alz association and Sprinwell. Finally, because of safety reason , I had to places him in a nursing home. The first 3 months were traumatic for him and me. He would call me up to 6 times a day to come home. He would have temper tantrums over the phone. I would start shaking and I developed panic attacks again. I hired a geriatric care manager through the alz assoc. to keep tabs how he is doing in the nursing home.
My father is in stage 7 of the disease.

What do you do with people who are so judge mental even when it is not their business. I thought she was a really great neighbor and now I will never feel the same. People don't understand that they may not have the whole story.

I have been grieving my father and his disease. I am also grieving the father that I never had.

Thanks to all of you for reading this! My best to you all and I live by the words that 'Everyday is a gift!'