My dad was married to my 1st stepmother for 25 years, when she passed he was very lonely and remarried just a few months later. His new wife drained everything out of him financially and then divorced him. The problem is, they divorced over 5 years ago but she still is in change of his money and he told me she is paying her bills with it as well as his. The 2nd problem is she has brain washed him into wanting to be cremated when he already bought a plot next to my 1st stepmother. The funeral home sent me a cremation authorization to sign but why should I when he already has a plot. I believe she wants to sell the plot when he passes. Why else would she want him cremated? Also, she is already remarried to another sick/old man. She tries to keep the family away and tells him she loves him not us... meanwhile she divorced him!! This lady is a criminal but how do I prove it? She's been married several times and they have all been elder wealthy men. I NEED HELP! There is so much more to this story. I just don't know what to do. I want to stop her from doing this. I am his daughter. She is the ex wife! She has convinced him that he wants to be cremated when I know for a fact he doesn't and if I don't sign it he said he won't speak to me anymore! Please someone give me advise!
The only way in which she could have a valid POA is if your father voluntarily gave it to her. If he did that, and if he had capacity at the time of signing, and if it was either done post-divorce or done during the marriage but he has done nothing to revoke it; well, if all of those things are true then, I'm afraid, you've got problems.
However. If you have or can obtain independent witnesses to her emotional abuse of him, that is also something you could report to APS. They will take a dim view of it. When you say he is living alone, why is he living alone? How far away from him are you, for example?
Hm. There is one more point that doesn't make sense. Why is the funeral home sending you a cremation authorisation form if she has POA?
I hope you can nail this horrible gold-digger.
And don't sign anything until you've taken advice. Meanwhile call the funeral home and tell them he already has arrangements in place, thank you very much. Best of luck, please update.
A social worker there told me of a similar case, which is ongoing in Boston, where a woman moved in with an elderly man with dementia and is taking advantage of him. The woman is a PROSTITUTE! APS will not do anything about it!! The man's daughter is beside herself! She can't do anything about the situation.
I am also frustrated in APS' lack of protection of the elderly. Children of the elderly report the abuses and APS does NOTHING. God help us!!
I dunno. You read about black widow type evil geniuses but you never think it really happens…
Forget winning the popularity stakes and focus on his best interests. It'll help you stay the course if you know you're doing the right thing. Best of luck.
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