After my father’s passing an estranged sister has come back and reconciled with our mother. She caused great hardship for my parents by borrowing money, not paying it back, causing them to live on credit cards. Over the years they told me of so many sad hurtful things she said and did, she was even physical against my mother. I believe she has a personality disorder having had six marriages all with domestic violence and was abusive to her children. Her children cut ties with her and she has never met her grandchildren. I had to eliminate her from my life for my own well being. I was glad all those years that she stayed away. I think it was much better for my parents. The last visit with my mother did not go well, she was so emotional and angry, asking why won’t everybody forgive and just be a family, does my sister have to pay for her wrong doing for the rest of her life? I wish I never went that day, it was so awkward. I was shocked by the change in her feelings from sadness to anger. We were getting through this day by day until my sister gets involved. I am not giving up but accepting that this is my mother’s choice. This is a time of grief for a father that I always loved and respected. Not a time that I will allow my sister back into my life. Now how do I handle perhaps never seeing my mother again?