She uses every excuse in the world not to work or get her own place to live. She wont even make an appointment with the county for assistance. She has been homeless before sleeping in her friends warehouse that's why I picked her up last summer to live with me for a few months to help her out but it seems like she just wants to be homless again. I had to tell my coworker to not answer her calls for marijuana anymore because she will spend all her money from EDD on marijuana and ciggs. When I talk to her about this stuff she says I am being hurtful and abusive and I owe her for her giving me a childhood. She guilt trips me, and then tells my husband anything to shut him up. We re expecting a baby and I really need to start nesting forcusing on our baby.
She uses every excuse in the world not to work or get her own place to live. She wont even make an appointment with the county for assistance............THEN, YOU CALL AND MAKE THE APPOINTMENT. ON THE DAY OF, TAKE MOM WHEREVER AND THEN TO THE APPOINTMENT. She has been homeless before sleeping in her friends warehouse that's why I picked her up last summer to live with me for a few months........OKAY, A FEW MONTHS HAVE GONE BY... to help her out but it seems like she just wants to be homless again. IF THAT'S WHAT SHE WANTS. .....SHE'S GOING TO DO WHAT SHE WANTS............. had to tell my coworker to not answer her calls for marijuana anymore because she will spend all her money from EDD on marijuana and ciggs. TELL HER YOU ARE GOING TO TELL E.D.D. WHAT THE MONEY IS BEING SPENT ON. When I talk to her about this stuff she says I am being hurtful and abusive and I owe her for her giving me a childhood. CAN SHE LEGITIMALLY CLAIM SHE GAVE YOU A CHILDHOOD...WAS IT GOOD OR NOT SO GREAT? She guilt trips me, STOP THE GUILT TRIP. SHE KNOWS YOUR WEAKNESSES AND IS ABUSING THAT. then tells my husband anything to shut him up......WELL, TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT SINCE IT IS YOUR HOME (HIS AND YOURS), THAT HE IS ENTITLED TO ANSWER BACK, AND MAKE HIM HAVE THE LAST WORD. NOT YOU MOM. We re expecting a baby and I really need to start nesting forcusing on our baby. EXCELLENT BOTTOM LINE. MOM WILL HAVE TO UNDERSTAND, IT IS YOUR TURN TO GIVE YOUR BABY A PEACEFUL, LOVING ENVIRONMENT, SUBSTANCE FREE.
I WROTE THIS IN CAPS TO DIFFERENTIATE THE ORIGINAL MESSAGE FROM WHAT I WROTE.
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I wish you the best. Tough love with mom, no guilt.
M88
How long has she been living with you?
I think I would start making the inquiries that need to be made to get assistance, including finding a place for her to live and lining up a moving van.
But I would provide her with a written list of what needs to be done (including stopping smoking - that's harmful for you and certainly will be for the baby) if she wants to stay. If not, then you'll find a place for her.