How do I get a 64-year-old lady to shut her windows at night when the weather is getting really cold out?

she will be goiing in to the doctors next few eeks to get a check up and talk with them so iam sure i will be in the doctors office as well

You are a good friend indeed! If she hasn't already, I'll bet she will sign papers that permit the doctors to talk to you about her. With or without that permission I urge you to contact her doctor about her new behaviors and to get her to see the doctor if possible.

she has COPD iam just a friend careing for her and all she almost died last year from heart failure and i saved her life iam the one who called 911 for her when she was down on her knees for 2 days that i know of sleeping like that leaning on her bed and the docs took 75 lbs of water off of her body and i been to each doctors appt with her and now she lives with us

Has she seen a doctor recently? I'd be concerned about the depression. Perhaps if that can be treated the other behaviors would be easier to deal with.

Also, a time will come when she is simply in end stage and will go downhill. It is hard to think of that at age 64 and maybe that is a long way off. But with CFH, COPD, depression, and perhaps mild dementia, she is a sick lady. I hope that if you are in a caregiving role she has given you HIPPA permission for the doctor to talk to you and you can be in contact with him or her. Even if you don't have such permission, the doctor can listen to your concerns, without talking to you about the patient.

I read now that it is 2degF. I was just wondering because my situation has been that the gas heating is giving me wheezing and chest pain. Also found out that it makes people confused, which may be part of my 87 yr old mother's problem. There are no filters on her pre-1955 gas heater.

What is really cold? What is her body weight? Does she have gas heating? If she does, how old is her gas heater and has it had any recent maintenance?

and she is getting relly depress about something but we don't know what she loves going out of town and tomorrow we are going to a resuseables store and she loves the stores and all she is just is wanting to stay home and be sad by herself me and my husbend know she is just killing herself faster then we can take it she has COPD AND HAERT FAILURE she is starting to do that what day is it over and over agaIN AND SHE IS NOT ALL THERE ANYMORE SHE WENT DOWN HILL REALLY FAST we are just lost for help

she helps pay for the bills as well all the bills and she says hate the damn heat and it makes her sick when she gos in a the bathroom she says it makes her want to pass out i think she is getting a bit of dementia she don't talk to u its more like ok what ever type and she is always talking to herself and worrys over the pets and tells us every little thing she is going to do if any of this infor helps u

What is this person's impairment? Does she have dementia?

Would it help to focus on the financial aspect of the open window? Do you split the utilities, or who pays them? She may think that being outside not dressed for the weather is "none of your business" but if you are paying part or all of the heating bill, she cannot make that argument about an open window. Even if she is paying it herself she ought to know that this practice is costly.

If she has dementia or impaired ability to understand simple logic, you may have to take more direct action, if you are her caregiver.

right now its is 2 degrees as we talk

we pay for all of the bills ourselfs

If I was the one paying the heating bill, I sure wouldn't be happy about an open window on an eight below zero night. Is there a landlord or homeowner that should know about this? The heating bill is going to be phenomenal.

well its going to be -8 below in UT tonight and i asked her if she wanted me to close her window but she replied no thanks so we will leave her alone its her life if she don't want to close her window so be it we are tried of fighting with her over small stuff thanks for the commits

we have a 3 bed and one bath house she is under the same roof as me

saying iam ok when she stands out sie in her bear feet to take a puff off her smoke at night so we try everything about asking her to put some shoes on but she yells at us for being to dang nosy in her welfare being

thanks for th etip i will do it tomorrow ok thanks i will get back u on it and oh yeah she is alway

If this is a neighbor over whom you have no authority or control, I can't think of a better reason to call 911.

An elder being out of doors in sub-freezing weather not properly dressed is at risk of serious harm or death. Every winter we hear stories of people dying from this very thing. Having the police come out (and I know no one wants to call the police ask yourself - would you want someone to call if that was your Mom or Dad at risk or freezing to death?) Better safe than regretful.

If you were sharing the home I would see about installing window locks that prevent the window from opening, or only allow it to open partially. They are cheap and install with a screwdriver. In a pinch you can even just drive in a couple of nails to achieve the same result.

i just notice she is getting up and down all night these last few nights and thats is worrysome u know and she is just starting to lay down more during the day could this be from her congestiver heart failure she has?

she has a fan that is on right now in fort of the window i ask her if i could close the window she slammed the door in my face

Maybe she just needs to feel the breeze. Try setting up a fan to blow her direction at night and close the window. See if that's that problem.