My 82 year old mother-in-law is driving ME insane! In November of 2010, we made the decision to stop being the caregivers for her; she has dementia, won't seek treatment and her nurse practioner (she won't see a physician) is not capable of treating her condition. He recognizes it, but really ignores it.
Since we stopped being her caregivers, she has caused nothing but problems. Threatening to sue us for "trying to make her think she is crazy" or call the police for taking a can opener (one that broke years ago). She has, for the past 10 years or so, accused everyone of wanting her money-(she has none). The only asset she has is her home...and in 1997, she was afraid that she would develop dementia like her mother, so she transferred her home into my husbands name. She then accused him of only taking care of her for her house. SO, after meeting with a counselor and adult protective services, he signed the house back over to her-(I think my husband was trying to show her that he loved her, NOT her house). Did I mention that her other son, David, is a convicted sexual predator and is playing the "nothing is wrong with you, can I have money" game.
Anyway, NOW, she is accusing us of taking more than $3000 from her checking account! We have never had a POA, access to her account, or anything to do with her checking account. I am so very sick of all the drama. We have gone to Human Services, we have talked to a counselor, what else can we do? I know, its the dementia, but it feels like she is trying to destroy our lives.
My poor husband feels so guility that he is not protecting her from David, but she continues to make these accusations-(she even went into our 23 year old son's employer and told his supervisor that he was a "horrible" person). Why is she striking out against the only people in her life that honestly care about her? She has driven everyone else away-(her other grandchildren, her niece, and now us!).