My grandma is kicking me out, what do I do?

If she has dementia, the change in behavour is probably due to "sundowning", which is common in the elderly. They get anxious and agitated for a while, and then are back to "normal". It is best to either change the subject, redirect to something on television, or try to agree somehow like saying, OK I'll get packing now Grandma, and go into another room for a while. It sounds crazy, but Grandma is sick, and that's one of the symptoms we have to learn to deal with. It gets better when the right medication is given, which is different for each person.
Good luck!

Our local police said she nor they can kick me out since that would leave mom without anyone in the house to take care of her.

Let her call the cops. Maybe they'll take her away for an evaluation (and give you a break)

i know what u mean-my mom for years has been like that, on and off, hot and cold,
looking back, i think she was in the early stages many years ago--i would get so hurt, and we would not talk for days(i didnt live with her-but very close). its hard sometimes to separate how it hurts us and how frightening it must be to know
things are not right in your head, your frustrated,you cant expressyourself the
way u used to- and many know the road ahead is worse.
i wish now, that i could have been aware enough to not mirror back the nasty
and hurtful words -i wish i could have seen some kind of reason other than
whats wrong with me, we get so defensive- love is so important-
sometimes we have to look beyond what we are hearing with our ears, and
listen on a deeper level. i hate this disease- its so cruel-many dont get it-and even if u do-it still is a nasty cruel fate. btw, mom is still alive,but she was put in a NH about 4 hours away- now that i understand her moods, when i see her- she is just happy i am close enough to hug and kiss. life aint easy- u will get thru this- thisis a great place to connect to. sending u hugggggs k

Whenever I have a question about either parent's behavior that might be related to medications, I call the primary treating physician and leave a message for the nurse for input. As far as the mean talk, my Dad gets like that when I do something he doesn't like (it could be anything) and he'll tell me to move back to Texas --- he doesn't need me. With my Dad, I now realize that he really doesn't want me to move back to Texas. He gets upset about something, feels out of control and it's the only thing he can think of to say. He's feeling hurt and helpless so he wants everyone around him to feel the same way. I will leave the house for a while if my son is there to keep an eye on my folks. Otherwise I will go into another room to avoid any kind of ongoing arguing. It always seems to blow over in an hour or two.

SARA:

One of these days you're going to get sick of it, so start thinking about where you're going to go. But any way you look at it she needs you and you need her.

Get an MP3 and tune her out when she's having an "episode." Do, however, keep your eyes peeled in case she starts swinging or throwing things around the house.

Good luck.

I couldnt leave her if I wanted to.I am the only family member willing to care for her & I promissed her I would stay by her side.
I do change the subject & I understand she's not in her right mind but it really hurts sometimes. She will call me names & accuse me of trying to steal her house from her or put her in a home.I reassure her that Im here to help her & keep her safe but its just so hard sometimes. I get that fight or flight feeling alot.

Thanks 2 u all 4 the help.I dont feel so alone now.I have a feeling Im gonna be sharing on this site alot!

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With my dad I always tell him that I have no where else to go and we need to take care of each other but if he really wants me to go I will go in the morning. Having her meds checked is a good idea also.

I'd put this son of a b into a home and let them deal with it. I would not put up with somebody like this in my home!