Dad's HA tells me he is not wiping his rear end good enough after having a BM. I got him the wet bathroom wipes and both the aid and I have talked with him about it. He gets irritated and argumentative if I push the subject. I have been watching this situation with the help of his HA by having her tell me each week if he is doing any better. Now she tells me he is not wiping deep enough to really clean properly. She says he has the rang of motion and is able to do it. I don't know why he is not. He is 81, has Dementia, AD. I could really use some advise on weather or not I should start doing this for him and or how to talk to him about it in a loving way but firmly. What are the right words?