It's unbelievable how my mother's brain continues to torture her. Now after a 3rd? ischemic stroke, (doctor said there were signs of older ones on CT, plus the old unruptured aneurysms we already knew about), she has been diagnosed with aphasia and she is struggling to get her words out. She says 5 or 6 words perfectly, then stumbles to finish the sentence. She is still letting me know how awful it is that I put her in a memory care facility, and that it must mean I don't love her and I just want to have fun at home without her. I'm not having any fun. I've been running to help her, trying to keep a job and a marriage, and having money problems for as long as she's had dementia. If my husband and I had to live in this tiny house with her childish craziness, I don't know what I'd do. Funny how they can imagine we caregivers are off having a party, when all we ever do is work and sleep.
SORRY FOR THE LONG FUSS!My real question is: Has anyone had experience with Eliquis making dementia behaviors worse? I know strokes bring anxiety of their own. She says she doesn't want to die, she just wants to get better. It makes me want to rip a hole in the heavens and scream "WHY??"
See about Ativan or another medication to calm mother down. And stop jumping to her every demand, that's my suggestion. It's not like there's anything you can actually DO for her, and you wind up hurting yourself by the exposure to all the toxic accusations. I know, I lived thru it myself. I kept my visits to once a week and left when the ugliness got very bad. I always brought DH with me too, since her outbursts were more controlled with the "outsider" around.
Dementia is such a no win situation for all concerned. Best of luck, my friend.