My grandmother, 78, broke her hip for the second time last year. We moved to colorado to support and care for her, and as soon as she was on her feet and doing well we moved out of her home to a house that's about a 10 minuet drive away.
Everything was going fine but over the past few months she has slowly been getting worse. Last week she left me a voice mail saying that the bank was trying to take her house away, and after some investigation I found out that she stopped paying the monthly bill and let it slide into fourclosure.
There is already a sell date on the home, and we do not have the money to pay the legal fee's to fix the situation. The only real solution I see is to try and sell her home before the bank sells it so at least she walks away with money in her pocket.
But, I feel she needs to move to assisted living at this point as her health is slowly fading and she obviously isnt remembering to do things that she needs to do. I go over a few times a week to clean and do her shopping, tend to her dogs and make sure everything is in order, and she is asking me to do more and more all the time.
I also do not think she would be happy living with me, we have two young children under 5 (she is not fond of small children) both me and my husband work full time, and I wouldn't allow her to smoke in the house.
Am i wrong to feel that she would be happier and get much better care at an assisted living community? How on earth do I explain to her that I cannot save her home and that the only hope is to sell it?
I'm so lost!