Follow
Share

If I can't find a poster's most recent answer or comment to a thread, I need to leave this site.


I've just spent 20 minutes trying to find an OP's comment to a question.


I'm leaving and this is why. I can't spend time scrolling through endless posts.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Find Care & Housing
And the ability to report a new question or profile without having to respond and report our own post or email admin.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

If the mods are still reading here...
One other thing I'd like to see is the ability to report a post -spam or inappropriate language - directly from my news feed instead of having to go to the thread where it was posted.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Try it. Bookmark any page and see if it works..

I BET IT DOES :)

Then later you can cataagorize it (I think).
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Top line of computer says: Chrome, that's what I use,: file edit view history bookmarks people window and help.

UNDER BOOKMARKS ON THE TOP LINE, SCROLL down 1 line and IT SAYS:

BOOKMARK THIS PAGE !!!
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Everyday in life, there seems to be something on the radio, tv, person on a street, that bugs us... Do get frustrated, but sometimes, you just need to change the channel, and there it is!! another commercial you just saw on the other station.

On this site, I pick and choose a topic I want to read, and if I feel like, sorry about this, I more often than not respond, mostly willie nillie, not offering great advice, but try to give some kind of advice while I am trying to get something off my chest.

I Thank this site for being around. I freaked out when I though Captain jumped overboard... He is around :)

CWillie, Countrymouse, etc...

Anyway to BookMark the page, so you can go back and grab that thread you want to look at again? TRY TO BOOKMARK IT ON YOUR COMPUTER.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

I agree anonymous, we should be able to block people or remove nasty comments. There have been alot of snarky comments on here lately. I have been told when i was at my lowest point, some poster said "I'm glad your not my daughter!!!!!" Yeah, thanks for all the encouragment. Sometimes I feel like jumping out a window and a snarky comment WOULD NOT HELP!!! How do we get ahold of the ADMIN to say something about blocking? Also being able to block private messages if we find the snarky????
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

cwillie, I do the same thing, flying over threads that already have a lot of excellent answers. And Barb, don't you dare leave.

Roaming around this website looking for something is good brain exercise :)

[I re-posted this because I realize it is hard to find a new post when it is mixed in with an older answer posting. The website Next Door has the same format].
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Speaking of dysfunction what is with all the spam and trolls slipping through lately? We have been free from them for so long now that I really thought AC had that problem solved 😕
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

I have had enough of nasty responses from trolls on this site: I was accused of wearing "rose colored glasses" and placing guilt on someone in one thread. I think this site should allow people to block certain screen names or remove posts that are very nasty and cruel.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

This site is addicting!! I can’t tell you how many times I have been late for something because I haven’t left home yet and still on this site. Been late for work too, lol. It’s more addicting than Facebook, lol.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Thank you Admin Kim Barnett!
Replying to your message below, with thanks.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Barb... I haven't been on this site for all that long....A year plus..... maybe? But I do recognize a kindred spirit and one who gives such invaluable advice. Frustration can lead to decisions that are sometimes difficult and must be made for our own benefit. That said....you will be sorely missed. You have reached mentor status for many of us but your peace of mind is of utmost importance.

I get it.....this site can be annoying and not the easiest to navigate. Hopefully admin. smoothed some feathers.....and we will continue to benefit from your insight.......Be well, my friend.
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

Cwillie, let me clarify. I don’t know I have a private message unless I check my profile. I am only notified by email that I have a private message by email at 6:03 am and 6:03pm. That is 12 hours in between I am not notified. So I have to remember to check my profile to see if I have a private message.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Barb, you posted this on 1-8, right, the day after the Iranian strike?    I would be surprised if there were very many at all who weren't in need of more sleep, relaxation, chocolatem cuddling family or a furry friend, or a good long hike outdoors after the tension of that day.   

I spent the entire time from initiation of the strike to the aftermath either following it online or on tv, and couldn't relax until determination was made that no Americans were injured.

These are trying times, for more reasons than that.    I recommend a day with your grandchildren, or wandering in a museum or flower market or something very relaxing.    Me, I'm ordering garden catalogues.

I hope today is more restful for you and your family and for all those who were stressed to the max worrying about the missile strikes and the preceding action.
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

Barb, BIG HUGS! I am so glad you are back, even if you feel you needed a break for a while, you do that, but your participation is so incredibly valuable to so many, I would hate to see you go for good!

Boggleheads, I love that site too, and should spend more time over there, as one can always use their helpful information on finances and investments.! At a time when we all need to get our financial house in order, I have seen some pretty useful stuff on that one. In fact, this is the year that my husband and I are planning to save as much money as possible, just to challenge ourselves, and then hopefully invest that money somewhere to see how we do, it's actually pretty fun, and a welcome addition now that we are out of the Caregiver role and time to concentrate on ourselves for a change!

Good Luck with your investment portfolio, we can never prepare enough for our own old age, as we well know from hanging out here for so many years, lol!
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

I’m glad you haven’t left. I admire your advice and appreciate you sharing it. As for the drama queens and smart alecks that post, when i feel feisty, I just post back telling them they must be a saint for handling everything perfectly. Otherwise i just laugh about how miserable they must be! Bahaha!
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Yeah, I think I had a tantrum; need more sleep, clearly.

Thanks to you all; at least the admins responded. I am on another financial support site (www.bogleheads.org) and the interface is SO much better, easier to navigate, etc. And it's an entirely volunteer-run site.

The fact that these folks are making money off our good advice is not sitting well with me right now, but I don't seem to be able to stop responding.....
Helpful Answer (10)
Report
ExhaustedPiper Jan 2020
Barb I just saw this thread about ten minutes ago and freaked out! No!!! I don't want you to leave, you have helped me and so many others. More than the therapist I paid to see! I don't know how I can ever repay you for saving my sanity multiple times. Please know I am very thankful.

I kept reading hoping to see if you posted again, and am so thankful you did! I'm also glad the admin came on and I hope they can make some technical changes.

I always want you to do what's best for you, but if you leave here don't be surprised if you see me suddenly hanging out at bogleheads ;)
(3)
Report
See 1 more reply
Barb I'm happy to see you have been posting since your "snit" 🤣, I agree with you though. I tend to drop any threads that get a lot of answers and replies, I figure there are obviously enough others who can carry on without me.
Helpful Answer (10)
Report
freqflyer Jan 2020
cwillie, I do the same thing. And Barb, don't you dare leave.

Roaming around this website looking for something is good brain exercise :)
(2)
Report
((((((((Barb))))))
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

Barb, sorry to hear that you are leaving. Sometimes I want to leave as well, there are some posters here that are kinda rude or love to pull out the drama card. I don't think you should leave but if you are uncomfortable here, then I can't stop you. I wish you well in the future, friend.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Barb,
Please don't leave! You have such wonderful insight into the problems of the elderly and give very helpful advice to all of us.

I also find the "Replies" part of the forum frustrating especially when the reply is to a comment/posting that is not one of the most recent postings. It might be better if the "Reply to" feature was removed and ALL postings were listed in chronological order. The person posting would have to say, "In response to _____'s comment on 01/04/2020: >>>>>>>". But maybe that would be better than what we currently have.

I also agree that some of the "Replies" are not helpful comments that attempt to clarify the poster's comment, but snide, catty, negative remarks about what the poster said.

Sometimes we need to take a break from a situation and I hope that is the only thing that you do...take a break. We really need your knowledge and insight and caring attitude on this forum. Please do not leave us forever, just for a little while. {{{HUGS}}}
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

We just wanted to pop in and let you know we hear you. Unfortunately, we can’t make everyone happy. As example, our understanding of your frustration is with the reply function, yet within this same post others complain that they are frustrated that the reply feature doesn’t exist within the discussion threads. Our intent was to allow caregivers to read answers without needing to read side conversations that sometimes derail from the original question. “Discussions” are more free-flowing, therefore the OP is not in search of specific answers, but more of a discussion based conversation for all to chime in on.

The suggestion to include a link directly to the new reply is a good one. We will approach the idea with the tech team, as it is always our incentive to implement improvements for our members.

In answer to other questions, yes, there are Admins here. But it has always been our policy to loosely moderate the forum. We are all adults here, so while some posters might be more provocative than others, we do not censor posts by taste. Posts are only edited or removed in accordance with our comment policy. That said, personal attacks are always removed because caregivers are here for support. It is common practice on public forums to close the edit function after a period of time. Editing/deleting posts causes issues with continuity of a thread or historical context. Any concern about a post can be handled by contacting an admin directly with the "contact us" function or by email: kim.barnett@agingcare.com

Although you have pointed out frustrations with the workings of the site, you are all providing what was intended in the creation of the forum- answers and support for other caregivers. Especially after a stressful holiday season, large numbers of caregivers who are struggling find this site. Every day your interactions with them provide solace. We sincerely thank you for helping others who are in need and appreciate the important role you are providing in the lives of other caregivers.
Helpful Answer (13)
Report
anonymous912123 Jan 2020
Where is the block feature? Your comment policy needs to be revised, so that the responder can edit anytime they wish, same applies to the poster, and either can delete their own posts your report function is non-existent, we have to make up a response to the original posters question and then report ourselves. Does this really make any logical sense to you? Finally, when I go the "More Discussions" it takes me back to the top of the previous page and I have to scroll down...Again...a total waste of time...called busy work. It appears that the Admin is very resistant to change, maybe he/she should more time out here posting and see how difficult and time consuming it is to navigate through this site.
(4)
Report
See 2 more replies
Barb, you always give solid, wonderful advice to posters. I hope you don't leave. I understand your frustrations with this site, though!
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Also, Barbbrooklyn, lealonnie, Needhelpwithmom and everyone, please remember to check your wall or profile regular. I never know I have a private or public message unless I check it. I am usually not notified.
Helpful Answer (6)
Report
cwillie Jan 2020
All my messages show up on my news feed, it's strange yours don't.... maybe there is a box that needs to be ticked/unticked?
(2)
Report
Barbbrooklyn, I’m a New Yorker too. If we all just answer the thread instead of individual answers,,we don’t have to scroll through everything because it will be seen up at the top of the page instead of on page 2, or 3 or 4 etc. etc. Please don’t go. You were one of the first ones on here to give me a big fat HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

How do we go about speaking to admin about our issues? I didn’t even know there was an admin on here.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

I always get an email saying the posts were updated at 6:03am and updated again at 6:03 pm.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Oh hell no barbbrooklyn, you can’t leave!!! You always have sound advice. It is a pain scrolling through all the individual answers. I just try to answer to the main thread so it shows up. Don’t leave!!! We all need you. You help me so much with my Mother!!! Don’t go!!! You will be sorely missed!!!
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

I agree with all of you; Barb, if you're burned out, take a break, but we'll all hate it if you leave!
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Oh, I think I understand now.
We receive a notice of a post by someone, on our own news feed. It is not stated if it is a reply, or just an answer. We go looking for that person's post on that thread we may be following. It is irritating because we cannot find it.

A part of the problem I have experienced is this:
THERE IS A DELAY POSTING IT ON THE ACTUAL THREAD! MINUTES MAYBE. THE NEWS FEED POSTS FIRST!.

So, maybe waiting, then scrolling through the many posts on a thread.....
just as ridiculous, and I have given up finding replies altogether.

In the New Year of 2020, time is short!
Maybe the Admins can fix the problems?
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter