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My sister is 84 and refuses to get POA for healthcare or property. She has no will or trust. I am 85 and my attorney said not to take on this responsibility for it will affect my health and well being. What should I do?

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What should you do? You should take care of yourself and your business and let your sisters chips fall where they may. She has made her poor choices and that is on her not you. If need be APS and the state can take over her care if and when the time comes.
You need to do whatever it takes to protect your health and well being.
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Just let her be. These are her choices, whether you agree with them or not. It's kind of you to care but if she's uncooperative this will only cause you stress and heartache. If she dies without a will, state law will determine who gets what shares of her property. Adult Protective Servies can assign her a guardian if necessary.
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( Moderators, can you please relocate this post to Questions)

If your sister is cogent, then inform her that for people with no PoA, the courts will eventually assign her a legal guardian and it won't be you. She needs someone who is at least a generation younger as her PoA. In the end, a legal guardian may be the solution. It was for my step-FIL. It was the only option. Even after I warned him, he wouldn't assign a PoA. The only thing you can do is let them know the outcome of their decisions and then step away and let them have what they planned for.
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If your sister appoints a POA, it should be someone much younger. I agree with you doctor that having POA can be stressful. I am POA for my disabled nephew and thats enough, I am 76.

You may want to tell sister without a POA in place, the State will take over when and if she needs care. You can do nothing. She needs a healthcare proxy if she wants her wishes, concerning her heath, carried out. If not, the doctors make the decisions. No Will, the State makes the decision on who inherits.

If after you tell her these things she still won't see a lawyer its "oh well then". You just have to let it go. If nothing has been put in place when she passes, a family member or a lawyer can file to be an Administrator. They have the same duties as an Executor, the difference...the State determines who inherits.
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Don't take it on.
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