We moved my Mom to Assisted Living in February. The first location did not work out as it was too expensive and the financial stress was killing me. We had to move her to a smaller group home (not as nice). I still have to foot part of the monthly rent as her income is very low. We moved her closer to us thinking it was a good idea but now she has no one else to visit her but me and my husband. My MIL passed away in May and my Mother would not even attend the funeral but calls on my husband for help all the time. My Mom is mean, nasty and miserable. The staff at the home complain about her nonstop. It drives me crazy. They say she calls them names, she is demanding and uses too much TP. I tried to go one night a week and take her dinner. I made it two weeks and stormed off the last time as they continued to complain about her TP use and frankly I snapped. I am sick of the complaints on both ends. I have not been back and never hear a word from my Mom. She never calls anymore. She has stopped taking care of herself. She is dirty, teeth are rotten, hair is a mess and I cannot stand to see her like this as she never lived like this before. I am the only one left as my brother passed away 22 years ago and my Dad 7 years ago. I feel like I am abandoning her but at the same time, I cannot stand to go visit. Help!