Does the guilt and sadness ever go away when you have chosen a nursing home for your mother? A very sweet mother, with mild cognitive issues and possible Lewy Body, very stubborn. Also, I am a 66 year old disabled (polio survivor), married and would like to travel with my husband before I am no longer able. Almost every time I visit her, we end up arguing (I try not to!) and I leave, then she calls and apologizes and I feel even more guilty. She has had 4 hospitalizations in the past few years, TIA strokes, anxiety and depression. Her never happy and very negative outlook is getting me down. She always thought she would live with me and she reminds me of this as well as always talking about her home and her things. I know it is hard but she has been in SNF for almost 2 years and it is not any easier.