I married my partner of 15 years a year ago. My father died a few months later leaving my mother of 87 and in excellent health living 200 miles away. My sister living in London and I promised my dad we would look after my mum, and I would want to as a daughter anyway. My husband, who is quite needy, is adamant he cannot accept my mother moving into a nice retirement flat round the corner because it will affect our relationship, and will restrict our freedom, etc. He refuses to discuss it or blows up into a fury. I feel absolutely torn and permanently guilty. Although it would not have been my preference, for my mum to be living round the corner, my mum does not like London, and I feel I need to welcome her to my city and be able to support her as she gets older. I feel unbelievably guilty and torn as it feels like I have to choose between my husband and my mum. I don't know that I could live with myself if my husband made his views known to the rest of the family and i fear it will damage our marriage irrevocably.