My husband and I recently moved in with his 76 year-old father to care for him. He has copd, but thinks he has asbestos; he chews tobacco and has spit containers; he hacks and coughs constantly, and he has not bathed in over five years and he drinks everyday. I suspect he is an alcholic and master manipulator, but says he cannot live alone. I cannot get my husband to address these issues. I have quit my job to care for him, and am beginning to resent him. I believe he is able to do a lot more than he says he can. I do believe he needs assistance, but I cannot deal with his disgusting habits any longer.
Any advice would be helpful.