My husband and I moved in with my mom 2 1/2 years ago, she is 92. We also have a 17 year old daughter and I have muscular dystrophy (neuromuscular disease-no treatment or cure). It’s very difficult. My husband works full time and does most of the physical work. My mother has dementia and outbursts are becoming more frequent. I have a lot of anger and resentment towards my mom and it would be impossible to get her to understand my feelings. She’s very controlling and says horrible hurtful things. My brother lives 3000 miles away and we see him once a year. I feel so guilty but I cannot talk to her without feeling upset and the situation just deteriorates. Any insight is appreciated.
Your Mom has Dementia. You can no longer reason with her. It takes her longer to process and comprehend. They get self centered. You are also living in "her" house. They act like small children wanting their way. They can't understand why it can't be their way.
Have you made changes to her home other than moving your stuff in. People with Dementia do not deal well with change.
You need to tell her dr that there have been changes. He maybe able to give her something.
Hope the Nurse is a help. Just realize, there is something called "showtiming" where they can act normal. Make a list for the Nurse. It will help her evaluate Mom.