Yup, I feel ya. Even worse - I have to go out of town for NYE. My band has a gig (that I didn't want to take for this reason). So I have to leave here at 1 in the afternoon today (Sunday), and I won't get back till afternoon Monday. She has to be able to get up for dialysis Monday. Home support comes in the morning, but she has to be awake to answer the door, otherwise she doesn't hear it. Friends are driving her to dialysis for me - hopefully home support will have gotten in, to get her dressed and ready before they get here. I'm a nervous wreck.
Meanwhile, I am up very late working on tunes, and she just woke up. She thinks it's Monday already. How the h*** am I supposed to trust she can manage a night on her own!!!
Other than that....I do know what you mean. I feel like I can't get any space from my mother. I don't even like being asked where I'm going, after all these years of independent adulthood!
Sorry, you both need babysitters. No Dementia patient should be left alone. You need to think of them as children. They no longer can reason or have common sense. I never left my Mom home alone more than a half hour. Believe me, I understand needing to have a life. One reason after two years of caring for Mom, I took what money she had and placed her into an AL. But if they can't keep track of days or ur not sure if they will open a door for an aide...then they shouldn't be alone. Sorry, I know this is too late but in the future...consider a babysitter.
Meanwhile, I am up very late working on tunes, and she just woke up. She thinks it's Monday already. How the h*** am I supposed to trust she can manage a night on her own!!!
Other than that....I do know what you mean. I feel like I can't get any space from my mother. I don't even like being asked where I'm going, after all these years of independent adulthood!