My 70 year old mom has type 2 diabetes, neuropathy,2 toes amputated, 95% blind, has had several mini strokes and most recently had a stroke. Newly diagnosed with vascular dementia. She was living in a senior independent apartment before the stroke. Since she can't hold her bladder now, they won't let her go back. The doctors recommended assisted living. Since I am her only daughter and live close, I have power of attorney and take care of everything for her. I have two teenagers, a husband, a life that I am neglecting every day. I'm doing my best to balance but cannot keep up with her demands. Im emotionally drained. That's very hard for me to admit and now I feel like a failure.