My uncle is DPOA currently my father is almost 100% helpless (Parkinson, dementia) at 75 my mother is 70 and can't watch him 24/7 nor can she handle his outburst. She works full time still. They have an in home health care worker but the doctors and nurses have recommended a nursing home. However, my uncle refuses. Is there anything she can do? Can my uncle be removed as DPOA for not doing what is in best interest of my father? Or can my uncle be forced to take care of my father so my mother isn't in harms way.
Your uncle cannot force your mom to care for your dad. There is something going on here that we or you aren't aware of. If mom no longer wants to care for dad, for whatever reason, she needs to speak up to your uncle and ask for his help in getting dad placed. If he won't, then it's time to get his POA revoked. Talk to an attorney for that.
Your mom wouldn't need POA to place your dad in a nursing home but I have to wonder why your mom isn't your dad's POA.
I think your mother needs to see a lawyer specializing in Elder Law, explain the situation, and ask the most efficient and effective way to place her husband where he can best be taken care of. Perhaps this can be done without regard to the DPOA. (DPOA's don't have authority to determine where the person lives.) Perhaps she needs to apply for emergency guardianship. I don't know, but an Elder Law attorney would know and would be able to sort this out.