Do you employ male aides to help with husband?

Sorry Countess you are asking at the wrong place, this is a forum where caregivers can exchange ideas, not an agency. You might try looking for your local agencies in the yellow pages, or searching the web for agencies in your city/region.
I do know that male caregivers are in short supply everywhere, but keep an open mind, you'd be surprised at how well the women who do this can get their male clients to cooperate.

Does hubby specifically ask for a male aide? We had a male bath aide once and at least in this case, he wasn’t very good. You can request a male aide. We also had a male RN who I adored. When you investigate agencies, ask if they have male aides.