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Today she kept saying it over and over. She said she did know if it was going to be good or bad, but thought it was going to be good for her and for me and everyone we love. Then she told me to go home it would all be okay. I told her that I would call her in a couple of hours. She said not to be surprised if she didn't answer the phone and not to come over there alone. I was positive she thought she was going to die tonight. However, she is healthy except for the dementia, which comes and goes with hours of clarity. It just seems like she feels the dementia like a premonition or something. Is that possible?

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First of all, no one can actually tell a person that they're going to die on a particular day. Unless they're planning on running you over with their car later in the day that is. My mother-in-law who also has dementia, gets into these miscombobulated (spellcheck hates me now) days where she doesn't know if she's coming or going and everything is "off" somehow. So she could be experiencing her brain misfiring and causing her to think stuff is wrong when it's just her poor brain. Especially in the evening she's going to be more confused due to 'sundowners'. I don't know the relationship between you and your mother, so how you handle this will have to be your thing. But if it was my mother-in-law saying she thought she was gonna die soon, I'd probably change the subject or distract her with something else and tell her I'd call her in the morning. And since my m-i-l and I have been thru a lot together and are really good friends, if she told me she thought she was gonna die overnight, I'd tell her 'Well, I'll miss ya' and we'd have a good laugh. But like I said, that's our relationship, and it wouldn't make sense to anyone but us. ♥♥
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Is your mom suicidal? My dad was in mid-stage dementia when he passed from stage 4 heart failure and would say things like, "this would be a good night to die." He attempted suicide.
On the other hand, my grandma swore she would die before 50 and she just felt it. She knew it and reminded my dad quite a bit. Well, it all finally caught up with her at 91. She outlived my dad.
My mom who has no dementia and is sharp as a tack has routinely told me for the last several years she doesn't have much longer. When we go to the doctor, her blood work is the same or has changed little and she is holding her own. This has been years now.
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My mom isn't suicidal, she just seems to go into what I would call kind of a trance for a better word. She just drifts into her own little world and keeps says over ande over that something is different, and she doesn't know what it is. It could go on for half an hour at a time, then she coms out of it and says everything is going to be all right now and not to worry. Yesterday was the first time she told me goodbye and that she wouldn't be seeing me again. It's 6:30 the next morning and she made it through the night. I said, what the heck, I thought you weren't going to be here this morning. She said, I thought so too. I guess I was wrong.
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I think this must be a neurological thing; my mom does it too, and no matter how surely she 'knows' something, she's never been right. I know that terminally ill people often seem to have some foreknowledge or even control of when they will pass, but I think with dementia, it's more like a delusion, not a true intuition.
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Is this new behavior? Has she, in the rest of her life before dementia, been turned in, psychic, or have premonitions?

I ask this because I have them, all the time, and am 90% accurate. I'm only 41 and I'd hate to believe that this was a sign of dementia. I don't like having this gift/curse, and I can't control it. i also don't share with others when I feel things unless I think I can prevent harm.

Having said that, if this is new for her, then I would be concerned and possibly seek a neurological work up. It is possible these could be hallucinations due to dementia, rather than premonitions (hard to tell the two apart)

But please don't write off intuition completely. Often I feel that if I'd listen to my intuition more, I'd be better off.

Angel
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