I asked a question right before about things and I didn't know if I need to apply to be a caregiver cause that's what my mother's home health told me to do. But I'm having constant headaches and like I have said she flashes me back to the abusive marriage I had before this. I'm having panic attacks that are horrible and not to mention she admits to she calls it "boxed me in" on purpose. I can barely leave the house.
It seems that you yourself need help with your constant headaches and your panic attacks. You need to go see a doctor and possibly a therapist to deal with the trauma of your abusive marriage and how to deal with your mother.
As for apply to be a caregiver, I don't even know where you would even begin. I helped my two very elderly parents and never needed to apply. Or are you referring to Medicaid to see if the State would pay you to be your Mom's caregiver?