Do daughters of narcissistic mothers ever really recover from years of negative memories?

I decided not to have children because my mother was a 1st class narcissistic and my father was what we used to call "lacking a backbone" he would be told what to think, not reason for himself, completely manipulated by this emotionally destructive spouse whom he privately hated yet loved, which made me Very fussy about the men I dated, dad was a type I felt O respect for. I did not have Any of my needs met until I left home at 18 yrs. and had to judge the character of those I spent my time with. I feared that I would follow her pattern of behavior even though I was Never attracted to self absorbed, demeaning, petty & demanding types.