He is 86 and my wife and me do everything for him. When we need to go away for a weekend, he pretends to take an overdose of paracetamols and ends up (again,) in hospital. He then refuses to eat and drink and goes into his "confused" mode. He hopes it will persuade the wife to cancel the trip away. It's becoming embarrassing for the NHS who really have had enough, as we have. He has been checked from head to toe and there is nothing physically and mentally wrong with him.We find it selfish and cruel on the people who give everything they can.