Dementia, credit cards and online shopping; any suggestions?

Close the account. If he needs a card to make purchases around town get him a re-loadable one and keep the balance low.

Here's what I did....I got mine a bank card (not debit just a pre paid cash card FROM our bank) I load it up once a month with what we can afford. 200 bucks usually. I tell him how much is on it. He can do whatever he wants with it...but when that money is gone for the month, its gone. The end. He cannot take from our bank account. EZPZ and freely given by most banks (with like a 5 dollar a month service charge)

PS if you are the wife of a vet, and he docs can show he cannot manage money, you can become appointed spouse fiduciary.

I imagine he can't be reasoned with in which case you simply cannot let him continue to have access to a credit card. This could turn into a nightmare for you with piles of useless merchandise and expenses to pay. I had a similar situation with my mother and had to close cards. It was exhausting. I finally leveled with her that if she was going to continue to have a card she could not use it for online purchases. As difficult as it may be you need to do this now or the behavior will continue. Companies will state he had access to a card and knowingly made the purchases. They won't care whether you say he is not of sound mind.

When the merchandise comes, call the Co. for a call tag and return it. Use an excuse it was not what you thought or wrong size. You have to be able to return an online purchase for whatever reason.

Aren't there child protections on computers where you can set only what you want him to be able to get too. Just set up his regular sites, like email. When he complains something is wrong, tell him sorry I have no idea how to fix it. If he tells you to get it fixed, then act like your taking it and don't. When he asks when r you getting it back tell him it was unfixable. Put off getting another one. After a while hope he forgets.

Close the cards, only way to go. Lie to the companies if you have to and have someone pretend to be him if necessary on the phone. Could not convinced my husband to do this for his father (he had POA but was in so much denial - I get it -his father really was a brilliant man) and now his parents have no money or savings, credit is shot and we are paying their bills...and I still have 2 kids to put through college.

Close the accounts. Just keep one and don’t give him the info. Go to the places he buys junk and remove the CC info. That’s what we had to do with my mother. Truthfully he probably isn’t careful about card useage and could end up with identity thieves getting your info. Even when my mom had mild dementia the dr suggested someone else do meds and finances. Hopefully you have everything else in order as well. My mother and stepfather “ didn’t want to talk about that “ so as it ended up, his kids , who didn’t lift a finger the 8 yrs my mother cared for him (Alzheimer’s) and after 20 plus years of marriage , got the bulk of his sizeable estate and he had no living will , etc. so his last weeks were horrendous

After dealing with so many scams and "start your free trial!" monthly memberships, as well as unneeded unused stuff there was no room for, I finally took over CC completely. He still shopped for things online, but first asked me what I thought, then I ordered it Weirdly since this change everything he wanted going forward was both useful and no longer scam items (Publisher's Clearing House anyone?) . I think my father was just compulsively shopping out of boredom. As soon as he started talking to me about what he wanted, it seemed to ground him to reality.

I also made sure to throw away or donate as much as possible and frequently so he could continue to shop at thrift store. A lot that stuff was useless but I could just donate it in a few months later and then he got more stuff. Never seemed to miss anything and the waste of a few dollars here and there is no big.

Finally, to appeal to the thrill factor started getting lottery tickets every so often.
Which seemed to satisfy his persistent "get rich quick" itch. Ironically his spending
continued at a lower level, but still pretty persistent. The main difference was there was no longer expensive junk or monthly billing for scams. So it was a good
savings and he still had satisfying shopping experiences.

We had that issue with MIL and now her Guardian returns most of her items and has put a new limit on her credit card. I would go with the other suggestions, close the account?

Google can save your cc info and fill it in automatically, so you'll need to get into the computer and delete the autofill info, so it stops doing it. Also hide/destroy the cc statements so he can't find the number there. Lastly, freeze his credit. Contact each credit agency (Experian, etc.) to freeze your credit and DO NOT lose the PIN they give you to unfreeze it again.

Close the credit card accounts. Get a card for yourself and guard it carefully. Guard all the other money too. Give him a reloadable card. Put an amount of money you feel you can waste on it once a month. Tell him the amount. When it's gone, it's gone. If you have the energy, put some of the boxes of stuff away, tape up the box and then put a box on the porch so he thinks he has a new delivery. Find something for him to do. Is there a vet center he can go to? I've had this HSN/QVC/Publishers clearing house problem with several relatives.