After 6 months of my husband and I attempting to be his grandmother's 24/7 caregiver, it has become apparent it is not sustainable. We have tried the hoyer lift, renovated her house for her needs, and hired care aids, and its just not enough. The care aids we hired after I injured myself (some of the most expensive in the region, so I doubt I'll get more help with any other organization) said they wouldn't help anymore because she wasn't mobile enough, was too heavy, and they didn't want to hurt themselves. (We even had OT come to teach them how to use the Hoyer Lift...but I guess that wasn't enough.) Unfortunately every time we work out asses off to make it an inch easier for us, she makes it a mile harder to care for her through non-cooperation. (Since we got the Hoyer lift she refuses to stand for me to clean and change her diaper in the bathroom, and now even refuses to roll over in bed.
So mostly everyone agreed it is time for her to go into a full time nursing facility. I don't even know where to start, even after googling myself to death. We can't do anything yet, as her paperwork for her annuities is still in the red tape and my husband and I are supplementing her on our savings until the money comes through, but I'm hoping we will start picking out a home tomorrow. (My husband went from complete denial that she needed it to agreeing to it, but dragging his feet on the actual implementation.)
That said, since I have POA, along with my husband and his mother, I'm assuming that though she has left, she will still need a caregiver to be working on her behalf. I do not know what all that will entail if she goes into a nursing facility.
What will all that include? Scheduling doctors? Just financial management? Quality checks? Other things I do not know about? I am planning on continuing the caregiving when she goes in, but I'm not sure what to expect after we finally get her settled. I am hoping to find (or resume) my career after she is placed, but I would like an idea of what the time demands will be before I start brushing up the resume and contacting my former boss, who told me when I left I could come back any time.
Thank you in advance for any advice.