My 78 year old mother was staying in one after being in the nursing home to recover from a broken hip. Three doctors said she should stay there forever, due to her continued decline from prior strokes and her dementia and inability to walk (she refused to use walker and fell constantly). But, she had the financial resources to afford a home health aide daily, and I was busy setting that up (along with a medic alert system, which she refused to use at the AL facility). However, she got more and more angry, and demanding to come home STAT, and apparently she had been approached by an employee there (dishwasher on night shift, NO medical training) the minute she was admitted, and made arrangements for that woman to "take care of her." Against my wishes as her POA of four years (with an impeccable record of honest dealings and lots of witnesses to my constant care and concern for her needs), she returned home, and then screamed at me to "get the hell out of her life and leave her the hell alone!!!". This nasty woman "caregiver" (who was clinging to her, and petting her, and cooing in her ear during it - gross!) also told me to stay away, and has encouraged my mother to continue her increasing hatred ever since. The first week, I asked the police to let me go in to check on mom, and asked them to run a criminal background check on the woman, which was clean. But the woman immediately had a lawyer come to my mom's home to revoke my POA (which caused my mom to lose a huge lawsuit I was handling for her, since this person wouldn't return any of the attorney's calls and found ways to keep them away from my mom). She replaced me as POA, and immediately went to the bank to assign herself to my mom's accounts then started withdrawing funds. I was still aware of this, as she was too stupid to realize I'd had joint signature accounts and had online access to activity. She has since changed her social security auto-deposit to a different account that she opened. Mom didn't have a huge amount of money, maybe $17,000 in savings and $3000/month Social Security, and I don't want or need her money (I still work). I also don't care about her antiques, paintings, and fine jewelry, but I'm betting this woman does! My main concern is that her bills won't get paid, or that her Medicare supplemental will be allowed to lapse (which would be horrible - she has a great policy). I have no way of knowing any of this now, because the Privacy Acts will not allow anyone to tell me things without bein POA. Anyway, after calls to Adult Protective Services, the Indiana State Board of Health, and discussions with the Police Officer, I found that she is not breaking any laws! The Assisted Living facility said they do not have a policy against moonlightling and cannot do anything to the employee, although they have since discovered that others there are doing it too. Also, as long as my mom can be questioned and say to the Police or whoever "this is what I want" then they cannot do anything. I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through this, and also wonder how I can make people aware of the hazards of Assisted Living employees in these situations!!! The neurologist says that my mom's particular type of dementia causes confabulation disorder, and because of her "intact sensorium," she can easily fake her way through conversations, seeming as competent as anyone on a superficial level. She can describe a movie plot or hold a conversation and sound fine, but can get lost within her own home or forget what happened two minutes ago. Strange stuff, but I did not want to take the risk of pursuing guardianship and possibly losing a few thousand dollars while she convinced the Judge everything was great. The doctor said they never listen to him. If my mother had not developed such a strong hatred for me right after she broke her hip, and "Evil Daughter" forced her go to the hospital in an ambulance (she wanted me to "leave her alone; she would be fine," even though she'd been sitting in her urine for 12 hours when I found her), then it might be worth it to keep trying to protect her. Before that fateful day of the broken hip and surgery/nursing home rehab (this place is full of old people!!!"), I served her needs constantly and only did the best for her, which she well knew. Then, I was the best thing since sliced bread! But, I wasn;t shocked by the sudden flip; she was a horrible narcissist mother, as bad as it gets, so I am over it now - had a sort of breakdown at first from having her scream in my face to go away, but I've moved on, mostly. I'm just wanting to know how we can change this for the future - I believe that Assisted Living facilities need to be forced to follow some rules about employees. I realize that they are technically "apartments" and self-paid, and that I could go in there and make friends and sell them fake stocks tomorrow, but I think the employees shouldn't be shooting fish in a barrel and making money off of these scams.