My only brother is a severely depressive, mildly schizophrenic 49 year old who has always lived with our father. He does not work, has driven all of his friends away, and despises me for having a somewhat normal life. Since our father's transitory stroke last week, he has verbally assaulted and physically threatened me three times, called the police when I defended myself, and threatened me with "legal consequences" and a restraining order if I don't basically do things his way (whatever that is, he hasn't said). He has no resources; learning to use a computer and the internet is beneath him.
Effectively, he has made it unsafe for me to be in the home with him, and our father is there. My father, who is ambulatory and speaking and thinking clearly for the most part, refuses to accept this; he thinks I'm overreacting, and that I should "just get along" with my brother.
I should mention here that my brother has spent time in jail for rage-based vehicular assault, has confronted me with physicality many times before when he gets a rage on (puffed chest, advancing steps, increasing tone and volume), and has written at least one note threatening revenge and "a bad ending" for me if "we were plotting against him."
Yes, I know, it must be lonely and sad for him, yadayadayada; heard it before, don't argue with it, but he has refused to manage or receive care that will help him get along in the world. My purpose right now is being able to make sure my father is as well as can be, that his affairs are being managed, and that my brother's tantrums don't endanger my safety or Dad's health. I'm new to the forum; any suggestions?