Hubby is in a really good memory care place 15 mins from home. I see him nearly every day. He's still highly cognizant. When we're out for lunch or a doctor visit he always wants to stop by the house. Everyone says this is a really bad idea. That it turns out to be cruel and they don't want to leave, and it creates a mess. I've been honest about it since he doesn't "fool" easily with made up stories. But he's so angry now, calling me up to say that I WANT him to die in this place (memory care) and he's going to get out of there even if he has to go to court, and saying really hateful things. It's amped up some paranoia about me wanting to sell the house, run off with someone else, and so on. He's such a loving guy, this is really over the top for him. Any suggestions? Should I take him home for a visit?
