I have noticed that things go South really fast with my mother. She is suffering from heart disease, bad and she is very depressed and anxious. It is very hard for her. I get it. I'm doing my best, 'but I guess my best isn't good enough' as the song goes. (an old song) Anyway, what do you all do when it starts to go south and you don't even know how it did ? You feel like youre walking on egghshells and that you are cracking them. Hard to explain this. So you try to explain and fix it and say that you never meant it the way they took it but they wont listen to it. It is your fault. So you apologize and they wont accept the apology. You are guilty. Then the phone gets slammed down or something. And they say "don't call me for a year" (yep that was the last comment I got).
So, then you feel guilty and bad and the next time you try harder. And it doesn't work. Since your parent was never this way before, you begin to wonder. Feeling lost and confused. Thank you.
Most times this is happening over the phone, but it can happen in person. My bro went over once and I think she didn't hear him say "Im busy I can't talk right now" and she ended up screaming at him saying 'why wont you talk to me? What is wrong with me". Am I too old and ugly for you now?".
Have to say this is a person who was the kindest, most easy-going person in the world, and now it's changed.
So what do you all do, if anyone has experienced this, that is. Thanks.