I know this is an evergreen topic here, and that there really is no answer other than to realize we are doing the best we can for our loved ones and we can't change what's happening to them. I just feel whalloped with sadness this morning after seeing my mom yesterday. Her enthusiasm for things decreases by the day. I feel like I am always trying to boost her up, think of things to interest her, etc. The hardest part is it's ALL on me, as her only child. Except for her BF, who visits twice a month or so (he lives 2 hrs away) and calls every day, I am pretty much it. Literally all of her friends have died. My daughters call and visit when they can. She 24/7 home health aides, but they don't really hang out together as pals.
My mom and I have always been too enmeshed, but now it's suffocating me. She calls me several times a day and asks me to remind her when I'll be there again. And when I leave, I know she is just going to lay there staring up at the ceiling. I work and have other things in my life to distract me, but lately I keep thinking of her all alone and just waiting for my next visit.